Early WIPocalypse update

I realise that we’re still 2 days away from the full moon appearing, but I’m deciding to post early anyway … there are a lot of things happening at home at the moment, so it just seems ‘right’ to do it now while I can.

For any readers that don’t know (and I’m sure I can count readers on one hand these days anyway), I flew to NZ to be with my parents as Dad had surgery on 7 February.  The plan was that I would continue to work from home as I have a lot happening at work … but that I’d work either side of having hospital visits with Dad while he was recuperating after his operation.  Mum doesn’t drive, so that also means she had a mode of transport to and from the hospital … I say that that was the ‘plan’ but it seems plans don’t always go as you hope …

Unfortunately Dad’s surgery didn’t quite go as well as expected, and 3 days later he went downhill and was taken into the Intensive Care Unit and then in for emergency surgery – they found a tear in his bowel which was fixed in the 2nd surgery.  For the entire next 1 1/2 weeks he was totally vegetative and non-responsive, aside from getting agitated and trying to pull himself out of bed and pulling his tubes out.  Last week I decided it was too emotionally draining to try and work as well, so I spoke to my boss and we both agreed that home should come first and I stopped working entirely – I’m incredibly blessed to have such an understanding work group, and I’ve been able to take carer’s leave (using my sick leave balance).

We were invited around to our closest friends home for dinner last Sunday night, and while we were there we had a phone call from the hospital to say Dad was in a really bad state again, and they were concerned with the CT scan results from that afternoon … he was taken in for yet another surgery.  We truthfully didn’t expect him to make it off the operating table, and weren’t looking forward to the next phone call from the surgeon.  I have to admit it was really good to be with friends when we got the news, so we had some more support to fall back on.

The biggest surprise is that when we went in to visit him the next day he was actually up and awake, and actually recognised us when we walked in and spoke … Mum and I were totally gobsmacked!!  We had a good visit with him that day – while he was still far from perfect, he was coherent enough to make sense and respond to questions etc … we tried not to be hopeful, and still felt really positive about his recovery after the odds being so stacked against him.

Sadly, though, his recovery has gradually gone downhill since, and the last couple of days he has been reverting a little bit to how he used to be.  He’s been agitated and his speech has eventually got more difficult and he’s been speaking rubbish and been very confused and ‘doped up’ for want of a better word.  His tummy wound is still oozing, he’s not coughing like he should be so there’s a possibility of him getting pneumonia, and the Dr had a frank discussion with me this afternoon about his condition.  Unfortunately Mum has also been a patient over the last 3 days, as she put her back out and has been laid up in bed for 3 days, so she wasn’t able to hear that discussion first hand.  It turns out that they’re gravely concerned about him but that they don’t believe he will improve at all if they operate again etc – they will continue to try to see him on the road to improvement but will need to do it with physiotherapy and antibiotics etc … but essentially won’t put him through any more major risks medically.  I was asked if I understood what that meant and if I’m OK with it … what else can you say in circumstances like those?  I know they’ve done everything they possibly can do for him to get him better, and it’s been emotionally devastating watching a family member suffering and deteriorating so rapidly.  It’s all up to him now to fight the good fight if he still has it in him … all we can is to be there in support for him as much as we can.

So, I guess that’s the reason I’m finding it the right time to post my WIPocalypse update today … I just don’t know what I’ll be doing in two days time … and over the last 2 days I’ve managed to get a bit of stitching done in the form of stress relief, so I might as well post the piccies now as later …

The first week I arrived in NZ I finished off the following (finish #2 of my 2013 Crazy January Challenge projects):

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“Little Witch” by Shepherd’s Bush (kit)

And over the last 2 weeks I managed to start and eventually finish (today) the following (finish #3 of my 2013 Crazy January Challenge projects):

Moon and Stars by LHN

“Moon and Stars” by Little House Needleworks
stitched on 27ct blue Linda fabric
with recommended Crescent Colours threads plus DMC 221 (red)

Next up is a Round Robin which is due to be posted in a week’s time, so I need to get cracking on that one … mind you our group is pretty understanding that there may be a delay … fingers crossed I get plenty of opportunity to stitch over the next few days, as that means Dad’s still going OK with his recovery …

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19 Responses to Early WIPocalypse update

  1. Kath says:

    Thinking of you and your family Anne. It’s a very hard time to go through. I hope dad fights as hard as he can and will make it. Love your finishes in the form of stress relief, it’s amazing how our stitching gets us through these difficult times. Love to you…. Kath xxx

  2. Giovanna says:

    I’m so sorry to read about your dad’s condition. Sending good thoughts and best wishes to you all at this difficult time. You’ve managed some wonderful stitching through all this, well done.

  3. Paula says:

    Thinking of your dad and you all just now. Hope things get better soon.

  4. Julie says:

    My prayers are with you and your family.

  5. Erica says:

    I’m sorry to hear of the difficulties your family is facing. I’ll be thinking of you and your family. Try to take care of yourself as you take care of your parents.

  6. Kathy Ayotte says:

    Dear Anne. I am so sorry to hear of your fathers illness. My thoughts are with you and your mother.

  7. Christine S says:

    Many good thoughts coming to you and your family, Anne.

  8. Terri says:

    Hugs and prayers!

  9. Kasey says:

    I’m throwing in my thoughts and prayers to you and your family!! What a difficult time for you. I’m so glad to hear that your boss was so understanding, and you could take the Family Time! What a blessing!

  10. Sheri says:

    Oh my goodness, your Dad and your whole family have been through so much. How very stressful for all of you. Keeping my fingers crossed that you have lots of calm stitching time in the days ahead, which as you said means your Dad’s recovery is smooth sailing from here on out.

  11. My thoughts are with you at this stressful time. The incoherence your Dad is experiencing is probably from (a) the anaesthetic used and the amount of time he was ‘under’ and (b) the type of antibiotic he is taking currently – google the type he is using and look up the side effects – it is probably contributing to his confusion. This is what we experienced with my MIL last year when she had two major operations in short order – one for her heart valve and one to get rid of the subsequent infection deep in the wound. It transpires 6 months later she had a TIA (small stroke) while in the operation and although her language skills have improved once off the antibiotics, she still gets her words slightly ‘wrong’. Try not to worry about the confusion/language as your Dad will come through that but focus instead on thinking positively about his wounds healing. Big love to you and your family. {{hugs}}

  12. Valerie says:

    So sorry to hear about your dad’s ailing health. I do hope that he can recover. I am glad that your workmates are understanding to the situation as you are under enough stress as it is. My thoughts are with you and your family.

  13. Karen says:

    My thoughts are with you and your family. I can only imagine the stress you are feeling at this time. I hope your mother is feeling better and that your father is able to recover.

  14. Sierra says:

    Thinking of you and your family

  15. Gina says:

    Anne….what can anyone say? Just that your friends out in cyberspace have you in our thoughts. Whatever will be is meant to be. So far this year I have personally lost several relatives and friends through illness. Sending hugs across the Tasman.
    Gina
    xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

  16. Mary tin TN says:

    Anne–Thinking of you with all your trials. I am so sorry to hear about your dad. May he get better!!. Good stitcying

  17. Karoline says:

    Thinking of you & your family {{{hugs}}}

  18. Joanne P says:

    So sorry to hear that your Dad has been very unwell. Hope he starts to recover soon.

    You have to beautiful finishes there. Stitching is very therapeutic when a relative is in hospital.

    The info from Life’s Apprentice sounds very useful too.

  19. Joanne says:

    Anne, I hope that things have improved with your Dad, take care of yourself {{{{{HUGS}}}}}.
    My Dad had a stroke 2-3 weeks ago and it has affected his sight and he will need to go into aged care. It could have been much worse. The hardest thing for me is being 5-6 hours away from him.

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